{"id":7158,"date":"2026-02-19T19:16:00","date_gmt":"2026-02-19T18:16:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/?p=7158"},"modified":"2026-02-19T19:22:51","modified_gmt":"2026-02-19T18:22:51","slug":"when-you-stop-making-excuses-and-start-living","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/en\/spoznaje\/kad-prestanes-traziti-izgovore-i-pocnes-zivjeti\/","title":{"rendered":"When you stop making excuses and start living"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"7158\" class=\"elementor elementor-7158\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-59652800 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"59652800\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1044fcfb e-flex e-con-boxed elementor-invisible e-con e-child\" data-id=\"1044fcfb\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;background_background&quot;:&quot;classic&quot;,&quot;animation&quot;:&quot;fadeIn&quot;}\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-45456ffd elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget-mobile__width-inherit elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-gum_heading\" data-id=\"45456ffd\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeIn&quot;,&quot;_animation_delay&quot;:200}\" data-widget_type=\"gum_heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"gum-widget-title\"><h2 class=\"section-main-title size-default\">When you stop making excuses and start living<\/h2><\/div>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7d4027dc elementor-post-meta-divider-text elementor-widget__width-auto elementor-invisible elementor-widget elementor-widget-gum_post_meta\" data-id=\"7d4027dc\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;_animation&quot;:&quot;fadeIn&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"gum_post_meta.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<ul class=\"posts-meta\"><li class=\"list-meta\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/en\/2026\/02\/19\/\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"\"><\/i><span class=\"meta-text\">February 19, 2026.<\/span><\/a><\/li><li class=\"meta-divider\"><span>\/<\/span><\/li><li class=\"list-meta\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/en\/category\/spoznaje\/\"><i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"\"><\/i><span class=\"meta-text\">Realizations<\/span><\/a><\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2772460b e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"2772460b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6b4c66cd e-con-full e-flex elementor-invisible e-con e-child\" data-id=\"6b4c66cd\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\" data-settings=\"{&quot;animation&quot;:&quot;fadeIn&quot;,&quot;animation_delay&quot;:200}\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3f23e892 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3f23e892\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p class=\"p1\">There is a moment in a person's development that cannot be faked. It doesn't come from an idea, nor from the desire to be \u201cbetter,\u201d nor from the need to resolve yet another layer of ourselves. It comes quietly, yet very concretely\u2014like a shift in focus from the inside out. As if something within you stops revolving around internal analyses, relationships, others' reactions, and invisible permissions, and begins to direct itself toward creating, acting, and completing something in the physical world.<\/p><h3 class=\"p1\">A quiet change of focus<\/h3><p class=\"p1\">This change isn't just psychological. It's energetic. And more and more people who are doing the inner work are starting to feel it. For years, the emphasis has been on clearing, understanding trauma, releasing patterns, and looking within. That was necessary. Without it, everything we build on the outside would just be an extension of unconscious mechanisms. But there comes a point where digging deeper into yourself stops bringing growth and starts creating stagnation. Not because working on yourself is bad, but because it becomes an escape from life.<\/p><h3 class=\"p1\">Why working on yourself can become a hidden form of stagnation<\/h3><p class=\"p1\">At that stage, a new quality of impulse emerges. It's no longer \u201cI have to fix this to be okay,\u201d but \u201cI want to do something, I want to move toward something, I want to finish.\u201d That desire isn't as tense as the old patterns of proving oneself. It doesn't carry that nervousness of \u201cI have to succeed to be worthy.\u201d It is purer, more direct. More like an inner movement seeking expression.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">What confuses many is that resistance also arises alongside it. Fear. Not because it's the wrong direction, but because it's new. Especially among people who have been taught from a young age not to trust their own impulses. To adapt, to listen to authority, to do as they're told. Whenever they went their own way, a correction would come\u2014sometimes through criticism, sometimes through punishment, sometimes through the withdrawal of support. The body remembers this. And so, when an authentic desire to act arises, the body can react as if it's in danger.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">In therapeutic work, I don't allow energetic work to become an excuse for stagnation.<\/p><h3 class=\"p1\">Fear of one's own direction<\/h3><p class=\"p1\">Here's an interesting twist. People often think that working on yourself means getting rid of that fear. But actually, the next step isn't to wait for the fear to disappear, but to learn to act with it. Because the fear that appears isn't a signal that something is wrong, but that you're stepping out of your old identity. From the identity of someone who seeks permission, who aligns with others' expectations, who measures themselves by the reactions of others.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">A new phase of development calls for a different relationship to life. No longer just observation and understanding, but immersion. No longer just working on yourself, but working through yourself in the world. Ideas, projects, physical changes, concrete actions\u2014all of this becomes part of the process just as much as introspection.<\/p><h3 class=\"p1\">As within, so without: self-work is not complete without turning toward life.<\/h3><p class=\"p1\">Therefore, it can be said that self-work isn't complete without this turning toward life. If you stay only in inner work, an endless loop easily forms in which you're always \u201chealing something more\u201d before you start living. But the truth is the opposite\u2014part of the healing only happens when you begin to live differently.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">Today's energy is increasingly supporting this. It's as if we are collectively moving from a phase of clearing to a phase of creation. People who have been working on themselves for years now feel they can no longer stay just in that. A need for expression, for building, for concrete results is emerging. Not from ego, but from an urge to bring what is inside out.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">In that process, a subtle but important dependency also disappears: the need for permission. Permission to live, to want, to pursue something. As long as that permission is external, a person remains bound. There will always be someone or something that is \u201cstill unresolved\u201d and that postpones life. But when the focus shifts to your own sense of agency, that need slowly fades. Not because you become rebellious or closed off to others, but because you no longer build your identity through them.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">It's interesting that at that stage relationships also change. They're less burdened by analyses, projections, and the need to \u201csolve\u201d something. They become simpler. Because they're no longer the center around which everything revolves. The center returns to one's own life's direction.<\/p><p class=\"p1\">In the end, this transition isn't spectacular from the outside. There aren't necessarily grand declarations or dramatic decisions. It's more like a quiet but firm inner \u201cI'm going.\u201d And every small, concrete step in that direction further stabilizes this new axis. Clarity and certainty don't come before action, but through it. And precisely for that reason, the moment you stop waiting for everything to be resolved and start living marks the true beginning of integrating everything you've done on yourself up to that point.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-388f69c6 e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"388f69c6\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-35e1928b e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"35e1928b\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-71e25993 elementor-widget-mobile__width-inherit elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"71e25993\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p>Tags:<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-67c45faa e-con-full e-flex e-con e-child\" data-id=\"67c45faa\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-9977133 e-flex e-con-boxed e-con e-parent\" data-id=\"9977133\" data-element_type=\"container\" data-e-type=\"container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"e-con-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-def4fd5 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"def4fd5\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Related posts<\/h2>\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-90b761a elementor-widget elementor-widget-gum_post_related\" data-id=\"90b761a\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"gum_post_related.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"related-posts\">      <div class=\"related-post-container\">\r\n        <div class=\"related-post-wrap\">\r\n                  <a class=\"related-post-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/en\/spoznaje\/kad-se-duse-ponovno-sretnu-zasto-osjecamo-vibracije-koji-ne-pripadaju-odnosu-u-ovom-zivotu\/\">\r\n            <div class=\"blog-image\" style=\"background-image:url(https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/04\/Kad-se-duse-ponovno-sretnu-zasto-osjecamo-vibracije-koji-ne-pripadaju-odnosu-u-ovom-zivotu-1024x576.jpg\">\r\n            <div style=\"clear:both\"><\/div>\r\n            <\/div>\r\n          <\/a>\r\n                <div class=\"related-post-content\">       \r\n                <a class=\"related-post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/www.eartharian.com\/en\/spoznaje\/kad-se-duse-ponovno-sretnu-zasto-osjecamo-vibracije-koji-ne-pripadaju-odnosu-u-ovom-zivotu\/\">When souls meet again: why we feel vibrations that don't belong to this life's relationship<\/a>\r\n                         <div class=\"related-post-description\">There are relationships that cannot be explained by the logic of this life. 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