We live in a time when any kind of criticism is condemned. Ostensibly, we are free to be who we truly are—at least that's the narrative.

But how do we become and stay ourselves amid a sea of information being served to us? It is precisely through these information and influences that we are subtly told what we should be like and how to think. The focus is on problems and limitations. Imposing such thinking slowly but surely detaches us from our critical mind and puts us in the position of followers who passively accept everything from the outside.

Everything is within us

Awareness of one's own identity and inner nature is something we carry within ourselves. In the context of modern society, we often encounter various trends and ideologies about personal development that can create pressure or expectations about how we should look or behave.

As a rule, personal development and self-work can be useful tools for improving one's quality of life, but it is also important to recognize that each of us has a unique path and our own needs. In this sense, true awareness of who we are can arise from introspection, authentic self-expression, and acceptance of our strengths and weaknesses, rather than necessarily from external pressures or norms.

Then various external influences can only separate us from ourselves. Working on yourself should be based on self-love, not fear. On self-acceptance, not on the judgment that something is wrong with us. We're not fixing ourselves; we're expanding all the good within us that makes us happy.

Doubt is a function of intelligence.

One of the key aspects of this process is developing critical thinking toward external influences and trends. It's always useful to distinguish whether a particular trend truly contributes to our personal growth or merely distracts us from our authentic path. In that sense, working on oneself shouldn't be about becoming “something” that someone else considers ideal, but about discovering and embracing who we already are.

Furthermore, an important aspect of self-development is balancing the pursuit of progress with accepting one's own identity. Instead of focusing exclusively on external norms, we should invest in a deeper understanding of ourselves, our own desires, and values. In this way, we can forge an authentic path that will fulfill us and lead us to true satisfaction.

We can have everything, and have nothing.

Even when we know what we want and what fulfills us, we usually don't dare to live that way and be who we are for fear of judgment and rejection. And then one day we wake up with thoughts like, "What's the point of my life anyway? How can I be happy in a world where I can't be myself?"

When a person focuses too much on external trends and ideals, they can feel disconnected from their own essence, which often leads to a loss of identity and inner satisfaction.

When we focus exclusively on what is outside of us—such as social norms, expectations, or popular fashion trends—we neglect our own inner needs, desires, and values. This can lead to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and even depression, as a person may feel like they aren't fulfilling their inner self and purpose. Working on oneself, which focuses on inner growth and exploring one's own “self,” can be a much more fulfilling path than one based solely on external expectations.

Authenticity is the beginning and the end.

Being authentic means living in accordance with your own beliefs, feelings, and values. When we conform to external norms without asking what they mean for us, we risk losing our own authenticity. What do we have if we lose ourselves?

For some, it's authentic to acquire material wealth; for others, to tend their garden; and for others, to gain knowledge. Each of these people has their own definition of abundance in accordance with their nature.

Our purpose isn't necessarily defined by external standards; it often reveals itself through introspection, personal experience, and inner reflection. External trends can provide inspiration or new perspectives, but they shouldn't define our identity or path.

The Role of the Lightworker

In 15 years of doing energy work, I always support the person's experience as they go through it, and I point out that this kind of work doesn't come from the perspective that there's something wrong with us that needs to be fixed, but rather from the perspective of how to expand even more of who I truly am. No one can tell you who you are; you discover that on your own. You are defined by your enjoyment, which shows who you are, but your shadow—your pain—is also essential, as it reveals who you are not. Therapeutic support from me always consists of healing everything we are not, which causes us pain, so that our true nature can become self-manifested. The energies I work with are like a breeze that fans our true nature.

The solution isn't found externally but in healing the traumas that keep us in such a vibration. Mentally, this is relatively easy to understand and resolve, yet as a rule the problem of that state and the feeling of being blocked from one's goals returns. The mind is never a tool for insight.

It's not the same to understand where we're “stuck” in our lives and to deeply heal the traumas that cause it. As long as we love our fears, we don't love ourselves. As long as we identify with them, we can't truly feel and get to know ourselves. Fundamental problem-solving doesn't come from the mind, because that's not where it originates, and we can only truly experience external change once we've achieved internal change.

The healing vibrations I work with in that process provide support that helps us become aware of where we're stuck, heal our traumas, understand ourselves, and support us on a new path. Once we are in our truth, we are healed.